My rating: 5 of 5 stars
~The Little Guide to Getting Tied Up (Including Suspensions) by Evie Vane was given to me as a read for review copy from the author through the BDSM group on GoodReads~
Personally I am new to the entire idea of BDSM and being tied up (or being a rope bottom). I wanted to give this book a read with the hopes of getting an idea of rope play. And I got just that. This book is both well written and incredibly informational.
It starts out with an Author’s Note and Disclaimer explaining a little about the author and what her body type is. A 44-year-old female coming in at five feet two inches and 115 pounds being moderately fit, expresses honestly that her experiences will not be the same as everyone else’s. This book is based on her experiences and those opinions/experiences of people who are well versed in the rope play community. The experience will be different and is possible for those who are of a different body type than her.
Now…on to the content. First off, I loved her mix of humor while still being serious and not sugar coating the intensity of this type of pleasure. For example, in the Introduction she explains when looking for rope bottoming on the internet:
“And if you search the web for “getting tied up,” well…be sure to duck before all the porn whacks you in the face.”
As well as another section saying what to include in your rope bottoming bag:
“Eye rewetting drops (maybe you cum so hard your eyeballs dry out, or you wear contact lenses).”
Hilarious! She manages to keep the serious tones and gravity of the results of irresponsibility in the mind of the reader while also keeping it light and entertaining.
She keeps reminding throughout the book that rope play is a dangerous activity and can lead to permanent injury or even death. She evens lists in Appendix B “Horror Stories” that have happened to other’s who did not take responsible action in rope play.
The author also uses personal stories of rope play situations that have happened to her to better explain what she means or is trying to convey in a particular chapter. Adding personal stories have greatly added to the content and helped reinforce and connect the reader with real-life situations rather than just saying matter-of-factly.
Overall, this book is one every BDSM interested person, from beginner to professional, should include in their library. Making the reader aware of the risks and respect rope play takes as well as revealing the fun and entertaining aspects of it are reasons I give this book 5 stars. I found very few mistakes (one of them being the overuse of the word “err”) and a good balance of outside resources mixed with her experiences. This is not a guide by a professional but rather a guide by an experienced woman looking to enlighten others.
I would greatly recommend this book to anyone interested in rope-play whether it be rope tops or rope bottoms. I am thankful to the author and the BDSM group on GoodReads for the opportunity to read and review this book.